Learning When It's Too Much

     I recently had a great offer presented to me.  My friend, Maureen, sent me a picture of a beautiful armoire that belonged to a friend of hers.  It was in pristine condition and she wanted to pass the piece onto someone who would appreciate it at no cost.  Burled elm, beautifully crafted, and hand finished. I had been looking for an unusual piece for storage and was excited to be the proud owner of this lovely antique. 

     I called a mover, gave them the dimensions they needed, but they didn't think it was going to work. The movers offered to try at the cost of $500.  Three moving companies later, nothing had changed. I had one person tell me it could be done but there would be a cost for a fit call.  Each conversation chipped a little bit of joy away, but I was determined.  I finally decided to rent a UHaul and hire 3 people to move it.  It’s funny that when we want something, we jump through our own hoops just to get it. My mom once told me: “if you want a different result, make a different choice”. So after all of the effort put into brainstorming, I finally had to stop, take a deep breath and politely say no "thank you, I won't be taking it". I like getting older because I can say "no" without any guilt. I don't have to beat myself up.

     I know better than anyone that it’s hard to pass up something that promises to be great. However, it is a part of life, and we have to remember that sometimes saying “no” and moving on is the right thing to do. It can be difficult, especially if you are passionate, but having balance, and keeping stress levels at a reasonable level is important for a healthy well being. Trust your instincts and your heart and you’ll end up in the right spot.

     We all see so much as we travel through life, I can't help but think that it gives us a better understanding of how things work. We know that the Coco & Cyd woman is passionate, and often wants to take on more than she might be able to handle. But, we should allow ourselves to pick and choose instead of taking on the world. There's no room for things that are toxic or just not right.  Life is wonderful when you embrace who you are and keep moving forward.  When something is right, you'll know and it won't have to be forced. 

 

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Quote to take with you for the week:

“...there are often many things we feel we should do that, in fact, we don't really have to do. Getting to the point where we can tell the difference is a major milestone in the simplification process.”

― Elaine St. James, Living the Simple Life: A Guide to Scaling Down and Enjoying More

 

 

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